Thoughts of this question began swelling up seriously in my mind after watching an episode of a popular USA network show called Fairly Legal. Question being that do women actually think they can change men? Let’s find out.
In this show, the guy specifically warns the woman saying: “I don’t want a relationship because I’m an asshole”. Needless to say she didn’t mind, they got into a relationship and as expected, it fell apart…
Now this was fictional so it wasn’t something I should have taken very seriously right? Well, remember there’s nothing new in this world, every “new thought” stems from an “old thought”. So I looked into my life and the ones of those around me. Is this something I see on a daily basis? Yep, I do. Most women actually do feel like they can change men.
For instance, in college, I met this girl I really liked, I quickly however realized I wasn’t ready for a relationship. I told her immediately. Her response was “let’s still try it.“
This experience had me thinking for a while. You can argue that she really liked me and she honestly thought we’d be good together and what not. But I really think that she somehow thought she could fix my problems and make it all worthwhile.
A lot of women do this all the time. As to how exactly you plan to change your men is beyond me and I’m a fairly smart dude. So I asked my friend (female) this – Why do females think they can change men?
Her response: “Changing a man. Or at least trying to is a instant fail. Men move slow and require patience… A man has to want to change first in order for him to change.”
For me it’s as simple as this. Men don’t like to be told what to do. Especially if it is women doing the talking. With that being said, if a man wants to change its light. It goes something like this: “oh shit I’m getting old I need to change my ways“. That’s it!
Now the tip! Ladies he doesn’t need you giving the box or even scheming hard to change him for that matter. If he’s not good for you don’t settle, he won’t change. But before you go around skipping dudes remember there are more women than there are men. Concentrate on worrying and actually doing your part in the relationship and the rest, God willing, is a given.
Sort of like the toilet seat dilemma – we need it up you guys need it down, you don’t see us complaining about why the toilet seat is always down. In the end the most important thing is doing what you need to do and doing it well If he’s a good man he’ll notice and make some adjustments by himself!