I don’t know if anyone has really touched on this subject the way I feel would communicate it properly to our beautiful well mannered women out there; so here goes nothing.
Whenever I hear a name called out other than my own, I never assume I am being referred to. But for some reason, when a derogatory term is used to address a female (other than themselves), most African American women will strike back with sheer ferocity in defense of their comrade.
I once encountered a rather funny incident where a female friend of mine approached her boyfriend and told him she was just called ‘the B word’…I couldn’t help but to be amused by his response when he replied saying, “well, were you acting like a B****?”
That was a little off subject but it begs the question in regards to labels and the behaviors associated. White women seemed to embrace the term “groupie” in the 80s, owning up to their irresponsible practices of sleeping around with rock stars on tour. The intended definition of groupie is almost identical with our presently used term hoe. So why are we being so sensitive?
If you analyze the term Hoe and the context in which it is typically used, one can venture to say that it might in fact be fairly placed. Most can draw examples from music videos with lyrics suggesting behavior that they would never want their daughter associated with. Do those behaviors exist? Yes. Should they be distinguished from that of which well mannered women conduct themselves? Yes. Do we need a term to distinguish them? Yes. So where’s the problem?
For those of you who made it this far, I commend your resilience. This will never be an easy subject to digest, but we can’t continue to facilitate pretenses. Now, not to be mistaken, there is conduct which we carry out in our own private intimacy that NO ONE is entitled to judge; but remember the operative word here is intimacy. HOWEVER, if as a result of the fact that you were so impressed by a performer (athlete, musician, popular guy in school, etc), and for that reason alone, you found it necessary to perform sexual feedback to demonstrate your appreciation…you are a hoe.
Don’t misunderstand me, I am not in discrimination of anyone’s choice of leisure; I’m simply here to help define the line. Everyone and everything has their own place. I have three sisters who I have the utmost respect for; as a result of the way they conduct themselves. I was also born and raised by a beautiful woman. But are all men created equal? Absolutely not; and neither are all women.