I heard this analogy from a former friend of mine’s mother, but it took a few bruises and scars in the journey of my love life to fully understand what she meant years ago. While she was still alive, she would always see the numerous male friends that would hang around her daughter and her so naturally being a concerned mother, pulled us aside one day and told us something that shall remain with me for the rest of my life.
Granted we were not dating any of the young men we were hanging around with but with most guys you never know; maybe the guys had a different mindset and game plan than we did being around them so much. Anyway, she told us, “you are an egg.”
Yes I know, you’re probably making the same facial expression I made when I first heard it so she said it again. “You are an egg and any man that you allow yourself to be with should know that and should handle you as such. Because if he holds you like an egg, he’ll be careful with you and do everything not to drop you.” But what happens when he does?
Ladies, what happens when that “man of your dreams” drops you and breaks you and your heart? Should you give them a second chance?
Well the answer is simple.
Absolutely not. I don’t understand the concept of giving someone that chance again. Why put yourself through that pain a second, third or maybe fourth time around for those who are stubborn, hard headed or just utterly confused that they should let him go? See, when you were with that person, you basically gave your heart for the person to hold on to. From that point on as I stated earlier, they should treat you & your heart as if they are holding an egg.
Now you know what happens once that egg is broken: it can’t be fixed. Just as how the person that broke your heart won’t be able to repair it. Now, I’ve said this before in a previous article that when someone cheats or breaks your heart, thank and praise the Lord because you don’t know what He just saved you from.
Although, it will not be the easiest thing, but you better make sure to say “thank you God” through all the tears and the pain because He just saved you from greater pain down the road. That was God’s way of saying, “Nope, wrong person!” You have to keep in mind that He ultimately knows who we are meant to be with so you have to think about it like this : why would anyone who claims to love you, bring so much emotional trauma and stress on your heart?
By them breaking your heart, there’s also the lack of respect factor. Obviously that person did not respect you enough to think or put you first to ensure that no harm came your way. So from the time that the person was irresponsible with your heart till now that they want to come back into your life, what changed? When did it click in their mind that what they did was wrong and that they deserved another chance to make things right? No! The chance was given when your heart was given to them initially. Their lack of concern to treasure it should not make you feel guilty when they want to come back. The best thing is to learn from it and move on.
The wrong one may have broken your heart, but you can best believe that the right one is on their way to repair it.