Africa has always been a continent that takes pride in producing discipline women. Our women are considered to be the cornerstones of our homes; they are the rocks in which we lean on. African women are taught to be the ones to stabilize the home and keep the family together.

Are we losing these kinds of women? Are our future wives going to be anything like our mothers? Our mothers who work two jobs to make ends meet and yet are still able to put a hot plate on the table for dinner.

We have African girls who can’t even cook nowadays…abomination! There are many African girls getting pregnant at a very young age, wearing extremely revealing clothes, being unfaithful in the home and not dating other African men. It puzzles me to see how African girls act in public:  fighting at parties, the things they tweet and the pictures they put on social networks. Many of our girls have now adapted the tattoos and piercing culture. What type of mothers and grandmothers are we going to bring out of our generation? I sometimes even forget that they are African.

We are losing our women to men of other ethnicity because these men do not hold them to cultural beliefs. Some of our women want to be free and loose and not be held accountable to live by our cultural beliefs. We need to get back to the basics. Our women need to come back home, stick to our cultural beliefs, not the cultural belief that says “if your marriage isn’t working get out of it and find someone better” but the cultural belief that says “we are together until death do us apart.” This is the cultural belief our parents envision for us, the one our ancestors lived through and it is what makes Africa so unique. As much as we are now in the Western world, we must remember where we came from, what we were brought up on and that having an identity is very important.

I’ll leave you with a quote by Maya Angelou: “For Africa to me… is more than a glamorous fact. It is a historical truth. No man can know where he is going unless he knows exactly where he has been and exactly how he arrived at his present place”.
Our women need to seek the knowledge and understand the struggles our ancestors went through to set us free from captivity. This will help with the continuous journey through life as an African woman.

We NEED our women back!

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  1. Mama Odi (@AfuaOdi)
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    on August 30, 2012
    Sounds like you're afraid no one is going to have dinner ready for you when you come home from work. There's a reason why our mothers worked so hard. It's so WE could have a better life and wouldn't have to go through the struggles they went through. That's why they push us so hard to get a good education so we don't need 2 jobs to support our family. I agree with some girls not really knowing how to cook, which can cause them to lose some of their culture (I know I'm one of them, I can only make corned beef stew and fufu) but overall this article sounds like men are upset because gender roles are changing. I don't know who you want to blame for that but I can tell you right now as a girl, my family raised me to work hard and go to school so I could have a successful career, not so I could just be another struggling housewife.
  2. Joe
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    on April 29, 2013
    You're an incredibly racist person. "Losing African women to men of other ethnicities". First of all, they're black, not "African". Second of all, if a black woman prefers men of other ethnicities, that's her choice. Having good taste never deprives one of the finer things in life. As a white guy, I love black women. I actually prefer black and hispanic women over my own race. Get used to it Broseph, because you're going to see a lot more mixed race couples in the future.

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